The Basics of Bullying

(I did not have the time yesterday to post this! Sorry for the inconvenience) 

Hi! Today's topic is something universal-it has occurred since the beginning of time, and it seems that no matter how hard we try, it won't go away. You guessed it; it's bullying.

There are several different types of bullying, but they are all targeted towards one thing; controlling an lowering the confidence of their peers. Bullying is one of the hardest obstacles to overcome, and it doesn't stop after school years. That's why having confidence and high self-esteem are key to making bullies disappear.

Try thinking about why this person is bullying you. Could it be because of certain circumstances in their home life? Are they trying to become popular with a group of people? Or maybe it's a friend who thinks they're just teasing you. Whatever motive, having an idea about it can get you to understand the bully better. Most of the time, a bully doesn't have enough confidence about him/herself, so he/she brings down the confidence of others to make him/her seem better than the rest.

First thing's first, you need to stand up for yourself, and don't let bullies control you like a puppet. Whenever a bully comes at you with a rude remark or maybe a punch in the gut, whatever you say MUST sound confident. I cannot stress this enough. Say something such as, "Wow," or "What are you trying to accomplish?" Most bullies don't pick on people who are already confident in themselves. 

If the bullying gets worse, try telling your teacher(s). Tell them to keep an eye out for the bully-maybe your teacher(s) might catch him/her in the act!

If all else fails, it is essential that you report the bully immediately. Don't think you're "chickening out" instead of taking a hit. It takes real courage to talk to someone about your personal struggles, and, trust me, we all have them. The principal and your parents can really help you-all you have to do is ask. 

What about cyber bullying? Well, I believe that you mustn't let one hateful comment ruin your day. Try focussing on the positive instead. But; if there are more than a few hateful things being spread about you on the Internet, you need to tell someone. Most websites allow you to report hateful or explicit comments or pictures so that they can be delt with. If not, try having a parent send an email to the owner of the website. Either way, the less time you spend on the Internet while bein cyber bullied, the better. 

Just remember that you need to stay true to yourself. If you are being bullied for wearing a style you like, don't change it! A bully wants to control you. If you change yourself in any way, you're letting them get what they want. If you show the bully you aren't affected by them, they will bother you less. 

While you are being bullied, it's important to have a strong support group. Spend more time with your family(no matter how crazy they are!). Hang out with friends who cheer you up, not bring you down. You need to be reminded of the beautiful, amazing person that you are. 

I hope this post really helped! I recently posted about confidence if you would like to read that as well (read it here: http://fashionbykiley.blogspot.com/2014/08/back-to-school-tips-confidence.html?m= ). Remember to stay beautiful and be yourself!

See ya around!

Xoxo,

Kiley

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